The original insights list
The words that started it all.
Matt’s original insights, preserved in their original order. The beginning of the archive, and a starting point for your own.
434 entries · Matt’s original collection
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- No. 001
You are what you think.
Carry into my list → - No. 002
Can’t never did anything, can did! ………….(Nan: “and you will”) - Bridget Buckley
Carry into my list → - No. 003
The quality of your choices will impact your life in every single way.
Carry into my list → - No. 004
If you want to go fast, go alone but if you want to go far go together.
Carry into my list → - No. 005
Life has to be lived forward…but it only makes sense in reverse.
Carry into my list → - No. 006
Live to add, massive, value. Everywhere and to everyone you meet.
Carry into my list → - No. 007
You only die once, so live every day.
Carry into my list → - No. 008
The most precious resource in life is time.
Carry into my list → - No. 009
Growth and comfort do not co-exist.
Carry into my list → - No. 010
Luck is opportunity met with preparation.
Carry into my list → - No. 011
Only boring people get bored (Nan, Bridget Buckley)
Carry into my list → - No. 012
Choose love over hate.
Carry into my list → - No. 013
Think for yourself, question authority.
Carry into my list → - No. 014
If it costs you your peace, it’s too expensive.
Carry into my list → - No. 015
Not all those who wander are lost.
Carry into my list → - No. 016
Good intentions matter, but your actions will define you.
Carry into my list → - No. 017
The biggest impact and influence you have in life, comes from your words.
Carry into my list → - No. 018
Start as you mean to go on.
Carry into my list → - No. 019
If you’re capable, or competent, you’re responsible!
Carry into my list → - No. 020
Always take the long term view.
Carry into my list → - No. 021
Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.
Carry into my list → - No. 022
Always try to leave things a little better than you found them.
Carry into my list → - No. 023
Have a preference for Action.
Carry into my list → - No. 024
Look first, ask second.
Carry into my list → - No. 025
You are the combination of your five closest friends.
Carry into my list → - No. 026
Who did your words, say you are?
Carry into my list → - No. 027
What happens to you is because of you. Don’t look outward to find the cause of your problem.
Carry into my list → - No. 028
A.B.D.S. - Always be doing something.
Carry into my list → - No. 029
A problem is an Opportunity, always.
Carry into my list → - No. 030
Your only limitation is your knowledge around what you need to do and the psychology of implementing it.
Carry into my list → - No. 031
Your actions become habits, your habits become reality.
Carry into my list → - No. 032
Communicating effectively is the key to becoming more productive.
Carry into my list → - No. 033
Effort is a Direct reflection of interest.
Carry into my list → - No. 034
Authenticity comes from - living in alignment with your own values and beliefs.
Carry into my list → - No. 035
If your a hammer, everything you see is a nail.
Carry into my list → - No. 036
The mountain is always tallest from the bottom
Carry into my list → - No. 037
Fear has a way of making pain feel permanent. It’s convinced you what’s happened before will happen again: but Fear is lying to you.
Carry into my list → - No. 038
People only see the decisions you make, not the choices you had.
Carry into my list → - No. 039
Strength is not about avoiding pain it’s about knowing you can handle it.
Carry into my list → - No. 040
A fit body, a calm mind and a house full of love are things that are earned.
Carry into my list → - No. 041
Success is never owned it’s rented and the rents due everyday.
Carry into my list → - No. 042
If you can’t find the answer then you need to find better questions.
Carry into my list → - No. 043
Have the goal but more importantly have a System based approach: Scott Adams (Dilbert).
Carry into my list → - No. 044
A man who chases two rabbits catches how many rabbits? no rabbits. “But better not to chase rabbits, let them come to you”
Carry into my list → - No. 045
In business instead of working for someone: You are partnering with your customers brand.
Carry into my list → - No. 046
Use the question: what will it take for us to do business today?
Carry into my list → - No. 047
Use the phrase ‘I’m curious’ before asking something.
Carry into my list → - No. 048
Dan Lok - response to competition cheaper pricing: “I never argue what my competitors charge, they know what their service is worth”.
Carry into my list → - No. 049
Creativity, is the generation of original ideas that have value - Sir Andrew Robinson.
Carry into my list → - No. 050
Power of persuasion = the ability to relate to people and adopt their point of view.
Carry into my list → - No. 051
Don’t have a life built on sand.
Carry into my list → - No. 052
You live in a tax farm as free range humans.
Carry into my list → - No. 053
Problems = opportunity.
Carry into my list → - No. 054
Discipline + consistency = Growth.
Carry into my list → - No. 055
Pain + Reflection = Progress.
Carry into my list → - No. 056
Contribute to growth, make 1 improvement a week.
Carry into my list → - No. 057
Remember to celebrate the wins, reflect on the highlights and enjoyable parts of what you do.
Carry into my list → - No. 058
Ask for help when you need, seek insight from your colleagues and piers Realise that all People like being asked to help.
Carry into my list → - No. 059
Conscious competence model - knowing or not knowing something exists and being competent / trained to deal with it or incompetent. Unconscious incompetence, then becomes, conscious incompetence, Then becomes conscious competence, and ideally becomes unconscious competence. Good example of this is learning new language / communication techniques then bringing them in to your language and over time they become tools you unconsciously use competently through your training and repetition.
Carry into my list → - No. 060
What triggers you teaches you. Learn to look inward if you’re triggered by something learn to ask your self the question: “what does that say about me?”
Carry into my list → - No. 061
Murphy’s law - the more you fear something (focus on) the more likely it will happen. (Whatever can go wrong will go wrong).
Carry into my list → - No. 062
Kidlans law - if you can write the problem down clearly then the matter is already half solved.
Carry into my list → - No. 063
Gilbert’s law - the biggest problem at work is that that no one tells you what to do.
Carry into my list → - No. 064
Waltzons law - if you put information and intelligence first at all times, then the money keeps coming in.
Carry into my list → - No. 065
Falklands law - when you don’t have to make a decision then don’t make a decision.
Carry into my list → - No. 066
15293 days alive as of 2nd Feb 2024.
Carry into my list → - No. 067
Brain scientist, Dr Jill Bolt Taylor discovered the 90 sec emotion rule. Emotions last 90 seconds if we don’t interfere. So take a 90sec breather before reacting. It’s when we interfere with those emotions that they linger and cause infestation. You need to ask yourself the question why do I feel this way and process the emotion. You are not your emotions and you do not let your children drive the car.
Carry into my list → - No. 068
Emotions are like children, we love them, even when they’re crazy, BUT… we never let them drive the car.
Carry into my list → - No. 069
Accept all risk where there’s no legal implications and save money for taking on more.
Carry into my list → - No. 070
Success is the product of daily habits. Atomic habits. You get what you repeat. Compounding results.
Carry into my list → - No. 071
Option a or option b? I’ll have both thanks.
Carry into my list → - No. 072
Relating people in your life to a tree: in life you have 3 kinds of people, leaf people, branch people and root people.
Carry into my list → - No. 073
Energy never dies it just transforms.
Carry into my list → - No. 074
Perception (Lense) versus perspective. Everybody has their own perception of something; There’s no advantage in your perception. Perspective is the act or the art of observing the world from outside your own perception. There is always advantage in getting perspective.
Carry into my list → - No. 075
You rise to the level of your standard’s: You fall to the level of your systems.
Carry into my list → - No. 076
(The preston harris law version) You do not rise to the level of your goals you fall to the level of your systems.
Carry into my list → - No. 077
Mastery is the absence of doubt. (Whatever the problem of need you have the confidence you can create a solution)
Carry into my list → - No. 078
The joy is not in the goal or the destination, It’s in the journey……. & the joy in the journey is in the journey shared.
Carry into my list → - No. 079
Cultivate self approval. Rather than seeking approval from others, excepting oneself, including flaws and imperfections. - it leads to genuine self-confidence and a healthier self image.
Carry into my list → - No. 080
When you’re, happy you listen to the music. When you’re sad, you understand the lyrics.
Carry into my list → - No. 081
‘Failed’ slaps you in public, ‘success’ hugs you in private.
Carry into my list → - No. 082
Time doesn’t heal all wounds it only teaches us how to deal with the pain.
Carry into my list → - No. 083
Your children are a light that helps you see a bright future.
Carry into my list → - No. 084
Great parents give their children two things, Roots + Wings.
Carry into my list → - No. 085
In co-parenting, always make child centred decisions, that are solution focused.
Carry into my list → - No. 086
Only a true friend will tell you to your face what others are telling behind your back.
Carry into my list → - No. 087
Today’s unspoken expectations are tomorrow’s premeditated resentments.
Carry into my list → - No. 088
When you say…I feel…it makes a statement more honest and personal.
Carry into my list → - No. 089
Be aware of thinking errors. For instance; catastrophising, over generalising, blaming, jumping to conclusions, polarised thinking, personalisation, fallacy of fairness.
Carry into my list → - No. 090
D.E.E.P. Method of communication for high conflict / narcissistic people = don’t: • D - Defend - don’t waste your time trying to convince someone who doesn’t want to understand you. • E - Engage in their manipulation • E - Explain yourself • P - Personalise - their behaviours are about them not you.
Carry into my list → - No. 091
B.I.F.F. Method; Be: • Brief. • Informative. • Friendly. • Firm.
Carry into my list → - No. 092
J.A.D.E. method: (similar to deep)
Carry into my list → - No. 093
Do not: • Justify. • Argue. • Defend. • Explain
Carry into my list → - No. 094
F.O.G. The narcissist off switch: identify what they’re using to get what they want out of you, fear, obligation, or guilt. Then call it out in a non-confrontational way and give them an out. “Maybe you didn’t mean it this way but… I know you’re a good person….” And think about what is the hidden feeling or fear they’re scared of and why they’re doing it to you…. They’re scared of loosing something….
Carry into my list → - No. 095
Any time you’re in an argument, there’s a certain level of hidden fear. The other person is scared of something that’s concealed. It’s powerful to stop staring in silence if they use any F.O.G. Against you.
Carry into my list → - No. 096
Be intentional about the reality you’re creating, because your mind is always looking for confirmation bias of the things you think.
Carry into my list → - No. 097
Safety is not the absence of a threat it’s the presence of connection. (Relationships) - Gabor mate
Carry into my list → - No. 098
If you think ‘someone’s’ ruined your life, it’s true, and it’s you.
Carry into my list → - No. 099
If there’s room for kindness, use it. If you can’t be a bridge, then be a lighthouse.
Carry into my list → - No. 100
Don’t feed your problems with thoughts, starve them with actions.
Carry into my list → - No. 101
If you haven’t heard the end of it - Then you haven’t heard the heart of it.
Carry into my list → - No. 102
It’s impossible to learn if you’re under stress. If the person you communicating too feels defensive, they’re unable to learn. (If you make people feel like that when you communicate; then - trying to tell them something at that time is useless)
Carry into my list → - No. 103
Jefferson Fishers top 3 communication mistakes: • Sharing a similar story or experience without first acknowledging what the other person has said. • Assuming attitude in words read by text or email. • Stop using the phrase ‘that’s crazy’ or other general response; that’s shows you weren’t really listening.
Carry into my list → - No. 104
Say something that’s adds value to the conversations you’re having when speaking. Otherwise ask questions about them instead.
Carry into my list → - No. 105
If you’re in an argument with someone, don’t start sentences with you. Replace it with an I. For example: ‘I am afraid that you don’t care’ instead of ‘you don’t care.’
Carry into my list → - No. 106
Why half ass two things when you can whole ass one.
Carry into my list → - No. 107
If life gives you waves, learn how to surf.
Carry into my list → - No. 108
Matter is merely energy condensed into a slow vibration, and were are all of one consciousness experience its self subjectively.
Carry into my list → - No. 109
Embracing what is uncomfortable is a prerequisite for learning.
Carry into my list → - No. 110
Common sense won’t pay the rent and doesn’t grow on tree’s, but splitting hairs will get you anything you need.
Carry into my list → - No. 111
It’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
Carry into my list → - No. 112
We each have two lives. The one we are living and the un-lived life we have the potential to live. What lays between the two is no more than the cumulative effect of the choices we make each day.
Carry into my list → - No. 113
No person is ever born with the emotions that are complicated; you are born with innocence and pure joy.
Carry into my list → - No. 114
When someone’s words and actions don't align its their actions that you listen too.
Carry into my list → - No. 115
Keep your face towards the sun and shadows will fall behind you.
Carry into my list → - No. 116
The best way to keep a prisoner from escaping is to make sure he never knows he’s in prison.
Carry into my list → - No. 117
If you hate a person, then you’re defeated by them.
Carry into my list → - No. 118
Life is a tragedy for those who feel, and a comedy to those who think.
Carry into my list → - No. 119
Don’t wait until you are rich to be happy. Happiness is free.
Carry into my list → - No. 120
The best Fighter is never Angry.
Carry into my list → - No. 121
The best thing about speaking the truth is you never have to remember what you said.
Carry into my list → - No. 122
Karma - the great law of cause and effect, whatever thoughts or energy you put out, you get back.
Carry into my list → - No. 123
Who you are today is the result of your previous actions, who you will be tomorrow will be the result of your actions today.
Carry into my list → - No. 124
The key is not to prioritise what's on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.
Carry into my list → - No. 125
Live out of your imagination, not your history.
Carry into my list → - No. 126
Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.
Carry into my list → - No. 127
The 5 most important things to learn as a kid I dreamt up talking with the kids the other day: 1) Listening and understanding 2) Using Communication 3) Being Kind 4) Sharing - (interrelation with the skills of being able to see someone else’s perceptions) 5) & Being Genuine with others and Yourself (includes honesty, respect, integrity, living in alignment with one’s values and beliefs) *note: upgrade the 7 habits of happy kids)
Carry into my list → - No. 128
In disagreement, conversation must be engaging the other person to find win-win solutions not to decide who wins or looses.
Carry into my list → - No. 129
Hack your communication and understand how you’re being perceived.
Carry into my list → - No. 130
Those who throw mud loose ground.
Carry into my list → - No. 131
Muppets become puppets.
Carry into my list → - No. 132
Small hinges swing Big doors.
Carry into my list → - No. 133
An apple day keeps the doctor away.
Carry into my list → - No. 134
With Great power comes great responsibility.
Carry into my list → - No. 135
Have something to learn not something to prove.
Carry into my list → - No. 136
Always think about what is the question to ask?
Carry into my list → - No. 137
OK , Yes, No or silence.
Carry into my list → - No. 138
Silence is a true friend that never betrays, you never learn anything while you’re talking so know the comfort of silence is your gateway to better relationships & more respect.
Carry into my list → - No. 139
Clarity, creativity focus peace of mind.
Carry into my list → - No. 140
First be interested then be interesting.
Carry into my list → - No. 141
Seek first to understand before being understood.
Carry into my list → - No. 142
For kids - can only be silly when you feel safe.
Carry into my list → - No. 143
Appreciation is glue, and worry repels. If you have something that you want to hold onto you and keep it, you need to appreciate the fuck out of it. The signals that sends to the universe attracts more of the same.
Carry into my list → - No. 144
Often the person that says the most knows the least.
Carry into my list → - No. 145
Understand that you have nothing to prove your value is your value. You don’t dilute it by saying too much. You don’t undervalue it by not saying enough.
Carry into my list → - No. 146
Use conflict as a mechanism for growth.
Carry into my list → - No. 147
Most people just want to feel acknowledgement and know they’re understood.
Carry into my list → - No. 148
Values drive your actions.
Carry into my list → - No. 149
Ask questions that demonstrate knowledge. Context.
Carry into my list → - No. 150
Never ridicule someone for a lack of understanding.
Carry into my list → - No. 151
Deep connection comes from shared experience.
Carry into my list → - No. 152
Passion is an alignment between origin, mission and Vision.
Carry into my list → - No. 153
Success can be attributed to the ability to attract a good team. To attract a good team enrol people into your Vision.
Carry into my list → - No. 154
Don’t focus on compromise focus on finding a win.
Carry into my list → - No. 155
Until the penny drops & reality hits home understanding is merely a concept or aspiration.
Carry into my list → - No. 156
Don’t chase, attract.
Carry into my list → - No. 157
Ask yourself the question, is this opportunity going to teach me or is it going to cheat me (of my time effort etc…)
Carry into my list → - No. 158
You show up for yourself by choosing to show up for the things that add value to your life.
Carry into my list → - No. 159
5 buckets principles:
Carry into my list → - No. 160
Skills.
Carry into my list → - No. 161
Network.
Carry into my list → - No. 162
Resource-fullness.
Carry into my list → - No. 163
Authority.
Carry into my list → - No. 164
Knowledge.
Carry into my list → - No. 165
The only constant in life is change.
Carry into my list → - No. 166
You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don't try.
Carry into my list → - No. 167
Emotion Experience Engagement Exclusivity.
Carry into my list → - No. 168
Balance isn’t found it’s created.
Carry into my list → - No. 169
Good art borrows, great art steals.
Carry into my list → - No. 170
Time flies when you’re having fun.
Carry into my list → - No. 171
You never gonna know until you know…. So the key is, to get through that shit as quickly as possible. Don’t stress, don’t wig out don’t wig out , you’ll figure it out.- Peter Robinson
Carry into my list → - No. 172
At the time in which you need the information, you cannot be told or receive the information at all. particularly if coming from your parents.
Carry into my list → - No. 173
You’re not living up to the calibre of your person. The Strand “pull your head in statement for management.”
Carry into my list → - No. 174
I plant things, the green bit goes up.
Carry into my list → - No. 175
The day you take complete responsibility for yourself, the day you stop making any excuses, that's the day you start to the top.
Carry into my list → - No. 176
He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.
Carry into my list → - No. 177
Excuses are tools of the weak.
Carry into my list → - No. 178
How to be emotionally stronger. Stop giving out remote controls and start giving out manuals. Use the phrase that does not work for me & that does work for me to guide people though the manual 👌
Carry into my list → - No. 179
The iron doesn’t lie.
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Looking with your 2 digital screens in the forest is good for you and you should do it. (Benny age 7)
Carry into my list → - No. 181
Feeding the fire within you without fuelling the fire within you is only possible through Deep acceptance of whatever it is you are experiencing in the present moment.
Carry into my list → - No. 182
Always spend more time observing than reacting.
Carry into my list → - No. 183
The bigger the reaction the greater the stress.
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Replace but with And.
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Think about their question more than you think about your answer……
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It is better to stay silent and be thought a fool, than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt.
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Be water.
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Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory.
Carry into my list → - No. 189
Doers are people who think about things and reflect on things internally, and thinkers continue to expose themselves to the external environment.
Carry into my list → - No. 190
Time flies when you’re having fun.
Carry into my list → - No. 191
The highest performers have an ability to say no. They’re locked in to what they’re doing so they have no issue saying no to things.
Carry into my list → - No. 192
You shouldn’t take advice from people who are not where you want to be in life.
Carry into my list → - No. 193
Sometimes new beginnings are, disguised and bad endings.
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The people you want around you are the people who are around you by choice.
Carry into my list → - No. 195
Some people will remind you of who you are, some will remind you of who you’ve been, but the right people will remind you of who you can be.
Carry into my list → - No. 196
Reasoning from first principles. (Don’t loose sight of the reason you started something, and always stop look back and review the first principals as you go. (Building the bridge example)
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The role of leadership is to transform the complex situation into small pieces and prioritise them.
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Stop trying to ‘fit in’ if you want to ‘stand out’.
Carry into my list → - No. 199
If you allow the environment to control your psychology, you’re not gonna win.
Carry into my list → - No. 200
Focus on the outcome, not the activity.
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Interview question: I hate surprises. Can you tell me something that might go wrong now so that I’m not surprised when it does?
Carry into my list → - No. 202
Where focus goes, Energy flows.
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Don’t waste time being defensive…be accountable instead.
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Wealth, freedom and security doesn’t come from what you do, it comes from what you own. The hardest asset loose ….is you, your personality, mindset, knowledge and skill set.
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Time is the only currency you spend without ever knowing your balance. Use it wisely.
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In order to be a leader, you must first know what it means to follow.
Carry into my list → - No. 207
looking at views is good for you. (Benny)
Carry into my list → - No. 208
With patience, persistence and a calm mind, I can do anything.
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When you loose your money you loose nothing, when you loose your heath you loose something, when you loose your character you loose everything.
Carry into my list → - No. 210
You become rich in your mind long before you become rich in your bank account.
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Confidence is silent. Insecurities are loud.
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If you don’t plan to win you plan to fail.
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One of the main reason’s people don’t get what they want, is because they’re not clear about what it is they want.
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There but for the grace of god go I.
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What the hand does the mind remembers.
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4 kinds of intelligence, mental, physical, spiritual & emotional.
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3 sides to every coin, the front side, back side and the edge.
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The rich don’t work for money. They Aquire assets that pay them. They don’t have savings, instead they Aquire debts every way they can and to purchase assets.
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Do the opposite to what the majority do.
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Pain is what drives motivation.
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Know the difference between a general rule and a rule that is written in blood.
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The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
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Be, Do, Have.
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Patterns tell stories.
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The world is full of problems that don’t exist.
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It only takes a little bit of effort to have a whole lotta fun.
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How do you make a small fortune? Make a large fortune then get divorced. (James Grima)
Carry into my list → - No. 228
Don’t cry like a baby after the mistakes you made like a man.
Carry into my list → - No. 229
Anxiety and excitement have the same symptoms. (the heart beats faster, cortisol surges, and the body prepares for action. In other words, they're arousal congruent) The ONLY difference is one’s focused on all the ways something could go well, the other on how they could go wrong.
Carry into my list → - No. 230
May your desires be greater than your obstacles.
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Ships don’t sink because of the water around them. They sink because of the water that gets into them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.
Carry into my list → - No. 232
everything you lose creates space for everything you need.
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True leadership is choosing to help people grow.
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Praise in public, punish in private.
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Never put anything in writing because people don’t know the emotion behind it.
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Be always on the pathway to yes. (Stakeholder engagement).
Carry into my list → - No. 237
How to disarm / Argument off switch - give your opponent a golden bridge on which they can retreat, give them an out thats beautiful. Look for what someone is using to get something out of you. Can you recognise Fear, Obligation or Guilt (FOG) then call it out, in a way that says “maybe you didn’t mean this, but it sounds like….” Call it out non confrontational way. Think about what is the hidden fear in someone’s argument. In any argument there is a level of concealed fear. What is your opponent scared of?
Carry into my list → - No. 238
Upfront pain always leads to long term gain.
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The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion.
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What you’re not changing your choosing.
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The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you understand why.
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You’d be amazed at what you can endure when you have no choice.
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Create value first, money is only a store of value.
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If your ok with every outcome then you’ve got nothing too loose
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Environment, time, appearance, social life, finances.
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Comfort zones are just prisons you decorate
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Priorities are rare, options are everywhere
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Big dreams go to die, in the planning place, there are so many bones of big dreams there in that graveyard. There will always be a set of reasons to wait, but when are we gonna take the risk.
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SHR method seen heard remembered
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Pareto Principle: for many outcomes, roughly 80% of consequences come from 20% of causes.
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1) Challenge every assumption “what do I know to be true about this problem”
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2) Break problems into their smallest parts. “What am I assuming that may not be true”
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3) rebuild from the ground up. “Break problems into their to their smallest parts”
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Rich people buy time, poor people buy stuff, ambitious people buy skills, lazy people buy distractions.
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Self awareness is important in relationships but It’s interactive. It’s through being with others that you get to know who you are and grow self awareness. Relationships help you to become who you are.
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Look for a life story.
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Don’t attach yourself to a person place or organisation, only attach yourself to a mission, calling or purpose.
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If Discipline forged your body, experience sharpened your mind & struggle refined your spirit, you’ve built yourself into something unstoppable
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Active listening - (Your children) before you give your response, just repeat it back to them and listen and think about the feelings they’re giving you behind the words.
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If you have active listening with your kids and time then you get bonding and the kids are more likely to choose your values when they’re bonded with you.
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Don’t rescue your children all the time when they make a mistake, parents generally do way too much for their children and they steal their self-esteem. They’re building their own self-esteem by stealing theirs.
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Circular arguments: Change the way you approach the situation for a partner/person raising the issue, start with what you need, instead of starting with what the other person did wrong. And for the receiving partner/person start by validating what you can instead of defending yourself.
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Your life doesn’t get that I by chance gets better by change
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What do you do with information that when presented challenges what you think to be true.
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A man goes to a woman to offer his strength, not to get his strength.
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Don’t let pain let define you.
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Avoidance is not freedom it’s a prison.
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Fear is temporary but regret lasts forever.
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Vulnerability is not weakness it’s courage.
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Your past does not define you.
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In Love, people look for certainly, and guarantees’s, but love doesn’t work that way, life doesn’t work that way. It means trusting that no matter what happens you’ll be ok. If something isn’t meant for you it will pass, if something is meant for you it will stay. Love is not about guarantees it’s about growth.
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Real Love is about standing strong within yourself, confidence should come from an unshakeable belief that you are worthy no matter what. Build the safety within yourself. Healthy love feels calm.
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Love is meant to be uncertain it’s not something you force, predict or control. It’s something you experience.
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Storytelling is a superpower use structure like set up tension and resolution.
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Balance and abundance.
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Happiness is not a feeling it’s a skill
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Enjoyment, satisfaction and purpose.
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Kindness is not flirting. Attention is not love. Silence is not anger. Tears are not weakness.
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Remove expectations from people, and you'll remove their power to hurt your feelings.
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Manipulation is when they blame you for your reaction to their toxic behaviour, but never discussed their disrespect that triggered you.
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How others behave towards you is a reflection of their own insecurities and beliefs, not your actions.
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Do you know how kids spell Love….TIME.
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Life has to be lived forward…but it only makes sense in reverse.
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When your feeling bad, anxious, sad, nervous or out of control write down what your thinking, how do I feel how do I act and what’s the outcome….challenge the thought, recognise and reframe it, reduce their influence on your emotions and behaviours.
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Don’t be fooled growth is always an ongoing commitment, don’t stop making it your task, it’s your priority never something in the past.
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Have blind faith in your ability to learn and get better.
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Goals should be specific measurable and time bound. Anything less as wishful thinking.
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You’re not selling a product you’re selling an outcome
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The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few.
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Pain is Temporary, Growth is Permanent
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Let Go or Be Dragged
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Adversity is a Mirror
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Some Doors Are Meant to Close
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Happiness is a Byproduct of Meaning
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Discipline Over Emotion
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Your Energy is Your Most Valuable Currency
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Rebuilding is a Solo Journey, But You Are Not Alone
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You Don’t Need Closure to Move On
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The Best Revenge is a Beautiful Life
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The moment you stop feeding the past it stops controlling your future.
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How to help people who are struggling technique ABC: (let them)
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A: Apologise, ask an open ended question, how and what…
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B: Back off, give them space and let them. People need to come to the table and own the decisions they make in their lives.
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C: Celebrate , make sure you celebrate even the small wins, and yourself you should model the change.
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Liming - spending time together with no particular purpose.
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Your gift is not found outside of yourself. It is not a skill, or a trade, or a modality. Your art is your life, and your fully expressed self is your gift.
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Don’t trip over what’s now behind you
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Be valuable not available.
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Patience is also a form of action.
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Don’t waste your time with the explanations, people only hear what they wanna hear.
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The world isn’t fair, but you can be.
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The fastest way to get better is surround yourself with better people.
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Love without self-respect is just sacrifice.
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You can only get offended if you allow yourself to get offended.
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You don’t need to have everyone’s respect, it will only wear you out.
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Self-control your talking, instead shut up and self regulate. Don’t shoot your mouth off because you’re offended.
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Don’t hide your hands when in conversations.
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99% of your happiness in 3 questions: • What am I working on and why? • Who am I spending time with and why? • How well and I’m treating my body, and why?
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Habits are the silent architects of your life.
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Two most important things to do are looking at things and doing stuff.
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The price of progress is pain.
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The price of wisdom Is experience.
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The price of strength is struggle.
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The price of success is failure.
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Anything that costs your mental health is to expensive look elsewhere.
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Success is 5% Brains 95% consistency.
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Self respect comes from self control, you’ll never respect yourself if you’re a slave to people pleasing and external validation.
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What you think say and feel becomes your reality,
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Breathe in and out of your heart while walking to anchor your awareness in your heart. Feel the good in your life. This will centre your flow.
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The people who can do it are doing it, the people who can’t are teaching it:
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In the flat land every hill thinks he’s a mountain.
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If you can’t change your life change you hair.
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More is lost by indecision than the wrong decision.
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Any person capable of angering you becomes your master.
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A well worn path isn’t always the right track.
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Bee’s don’t waste their time explaining to flies why honey is better than shit.
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Inspired by the fear of being average.
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If you can control your mind you can control your life.
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It’s on you to get you where you want to be.
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Not every closed door is locked, push.
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The root of all anger is an unmet expectation. Sometimes these expectations are realistic and sometimes they’re not.
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Surrender expectations and face the insecurities
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If your not asking why your not getting to the onion layers below the surface.
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Have a stack of undeniable proof that says you are who you say you are.
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Force pushes things away, authenticity attracts.
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Anger is a condition when the tongue works faster than the mind so hold it.
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School teaches you to obey but success requires you to challenge. School rewards memorisation the real world rewards creative problem-solving. School teaches you to wait your turn but winners don’t wait.
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Friends are the family that you choose for yourself.
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Time and tide wait for no one.
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Authenticity economy.
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A decade of business learnings: Promise late, deliver early, learn fast, trust slow, bet big, test small, give first, ask last, ignore opinions, treasure facts, always promote, never slander, disregard doubters, believe in you, persist always and stop never.
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When dealing with your kids listen louder than you talk to them.
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The only thing that’s stopping you from getting what you want is the story you’re telling yourself about why you can’t have it.
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To train them you need to give/have: focus authority tribe and emotion.
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Goals are for people who care about winning once, systems are for people who win repeatedly.
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Comfort without connection becomes a cage.
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The vampire can only come in if it’s invited
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Any language when ‘ standing your ground’ that starts with you, can be replaced with I. E.g. “You can’t speak to me that way.” Instead; “ I don’t accept that tone”
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If you’re gonna try go all the way otherwise don’t even start.
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The stone age didn't end because they ran out of stones, they just had better ideas!
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Everyone you will ever meet, knows something you don't.
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"The greatest enemy of truth, is blind respect for authority" - Albert Einstein
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If you’re gonna hoot with the owls, you better be able to soar with the eagles.
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3 rules to live by, 1. love needs action, 2. trust needs proof, 3. sorry needs change.
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Calm, caring and curious. CCC
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Work - complaining at work: there are only two things you could complain about: 1. the type of work that you’re doing 2. the work Environment. If you complaining about both time to get another job.
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The magic you’re looking for is in the work you’re avoiding.
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Do what you need to do to be in charge of what you think say and feel and everything flows from there.
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The price you have to pay for becoming great is…first….You have to be a little bit shit. Or the price of being good at something is to be as at it first.
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Don’t stop when you’re tired stop when you’re done.
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Suffering in life has no expiration date. It will always keep coming so build resilience and keep moving forward always.
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3 knows 1. what you know, 2. what you don’t know, 3. what you don’t know, that you don’t know. (The unknown) - the lesson is to understand the value of the journey into knowing number 3.
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With one hand you can’t do claps.
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Be too good to fail.
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If you lack confidence build evidence.
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If they wanted to, they would.
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Not everybody has the same values the same goals or the same heart as you do.
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No response is a response.
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If you want to be successful you only have to do one thing, be proud of your work:
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When you hug someone hug until they let go first,
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Exhaust the body tame the mind
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If you can explain your buyers pain better than they can explain it to you they’ll spend their money.
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Silence and clarity are louder than urgency.
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Old habits do not open new doors. Eliminate to evolve.
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Public speaking / motivating people to do something / or to listen: they need these 3 Logos : Ethos : Pathos • Logos - the reason and the benefits from their perspective. • Ethos - who is the speaker and why should they be listened to / reputation etc… • Pathos - the emotion, a reason to connect to the person speaking.
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……. “do well if they can” start that sentence with people, adults, kids, managers, you name it. People generally do well if they can. If they’re not doing well something is getting in the way.
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Your brain doesn’t know the difference between the real and the imagined this is why self talk matters so much.
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Your brain doesn’t know what’s true it believes what your repeat your thoughts shape your feelings and your feelings drive your actions.
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Systems run your business and people run your systems.
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A focused fool can achieve a lot more than a distracted genius.
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Self esteem and ego are inversely related. When one goes up the other goes down. (This is why a person with low self esteem is highly sensitive)
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There are three kinds of yes counterfeit, ….. and commitment.
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72 hour rule - wait three days before buying non essentials.
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One in one out rule, something new comes in something old goes out:
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Clothing rule - if you haven’t worn it in 6 months give it away / remove it.
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Morning rule - start your day with creation not consumption.
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The future is already here, it’s just not evenly distributed.
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Clarity and peace of mind - Prem Rawat
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3 coins for three words. 1- If it’s not your business don’t get involved. 2 - a if you don’t know the way don’t go that way. 3 - If you don’t know where your information comes from don’t trust it. Check the family before the marriage.
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Being liked is temporary, but being understood is a legacy.
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Take shit from the future and bring it to the now - Brett H - said in the back of my definition of receiving information from the past, like these insights, carrying them along your journey in the present, to grow, collect and expand on the wisdom and transmit it into the future (our kids)
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ACSS authority, comfort, social skills or skills.
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Use the word “direction” in conversation to appoint your self the captain of the ship.
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People never remember what you say they remember how you make them feel.
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It doesn’t matter whether you’re bad or good at doing the thing, the only way to get good at doing it is by doing the thing regardless. Another way to say it is the cost of being good at something is to be terrible at it first.
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Focus on the action rather than making judgement of the action.
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An extraordinary life has an extraordinary price.
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Venting doesn’t release the emotion it reloads it.
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You don’t win with strength you win with strategy.
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Energy transfer is real be mindful of who you let touch you.
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Instead of asking for a yes ask, “do you disagree?” The person will generally say no and then layout the problems that they have seen now have problems list that you can address. Always seek a no, to get your yes.
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Dunning Kruger effect: is a cognitive bias in which people wrongly overestimate their knowledge or ability in a specific area. This tends to occur because a lack of self-awareness prevents them from accurately assessing their own skills.
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It doesn’t make sense to keep wanting something if you’re not willing to do what it takes to get it. If you don’t want to live the lifestyle then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process is to guarantee disappointment.
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You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.
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It is better to be an optimist and wrong than a pessimist and right, for the quality of life.
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Forgive yourself for not knowing earlier only what time could teach.
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The world doesn’t reward potential or promises it just rewards Action.
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We teach people how to treat us by what we tolerate .
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We train children by what we pay attention too .
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Change patterns not people.
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Part of Healing is realising you don’t need closure, you need consistency, in what you tolerate, in how you speak you yourself etc…
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The life you want requires the healed version of you.
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Never tell anybody they’re wrong; tell them “it seems like you have a reason for saying that”. Because then it’s not a person to attack and you need the data behind their reasoning.
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If someone tells you that you hurt them….you don’t get to decide.
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Everything is a win when the goal is experience.
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Don’t let being right keep you stuck let being free push you forward.
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5 things you can’t recover in life: • a Stone after it’s thrown, • a word after it said, • an occasion after it’s missed, • time. • trust.
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If it’s to be it’s up to me.
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The secret in any negotiation is giving the other side the illusion of control.
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Fold your worries into paper planes and turn them into flying fucks.
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The amount of beautiful things in your life depends on your ability to notice them.
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Sunk cost fallacy - human nature to continue doing something even if it's not the right thing to do because so much time or money has been invested to it already so they persevere
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Never argue with someone committed to misunderstanding you.
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People are selfish, comfort is the enemy, attention is currency, truth offends, time exposes all, scarcity drives choice, systems beat willpower, power corrupts quietly, no one is coming.
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